A sad day

BoomR’s wonderful mom-in-law passed away yesterday morning.

I never met Millie, but from what I’m told, she was a lovely and vibrant octogenarian who adored her children and lived an energetic and meaningful life.

What better lesson for the rest of us? Everyday silliness and annoyances can really get in the way of what’s really important: living a meaningful life, and loving your family.

So today’s post is dedicated to Millie’s memory. I say to all my fiends who read and post — or who just read — if you would like to, leave a message here for BluVox, BoomR and the rest of their family, so they can know that we’re thinking of them. Unlike flowers, these condolences can be permanent via a bookmark or just returning once in awhile to read them. I hope BoomR and BluVox can derive some comfort from them.

So BoomR and BV, my thoughts are with you today. I know what it is like to lose a parent. May your wonderful memories of Millie sustain you during the days to come. Hugs – L.

6 thoughts on “A sad day

  1. RD

    I, too, express my sympathies to you, BoomR and BluVox, on the death of BV’s mother. You are in my prayers as you grieve her passing but also remember and celebrate her life and her positive contributions to yours.

  2. Mavis

    BoomR and BluVox,

    I, too, know what it’s like to lose a parent. Both of mine are gone. A loving hug and talking about their wonderful lives were a big comfort to me and my sister. Please know that I’m praying for all of you and sending you big hugs. I’m sure that Millie was a wonderful lady and helped to make you both the great people you are today.

  3. BoomR

    RF my dear, you are sooo very sweet to remember Mildred like this – I was actually going to steer her your way so she could join the ranks of the RatFink-ites here, but sometimes things just get away from us….

    Thanks to everyone here for your heartfelt condolences – they are much appreciated. The last couple days have been really tough with having to make all the arrangements, figuring out how to deal with things in her apartment & her car, etc. Sooo many memories as I’m now having to help pack up things that only 2 years ago I was helping her to UNpack & get set up in her apartment.

    I’ll never forget at the end of her very first week of visiting us from Pennsylvania – she said, “I think I’m going to move to Dallas in the spring – I want to be where the ACTION is!” :-) That pretty much sums up her love for life and her loving spirit!

    We’re off here in a bit to finish going through her things. Our church has a thrift store (think “ongoing garage sale”) whose proceeds benefit our community outreach program – they’ll be receiving lots of nice goodies from here apartment. Hopefully that will help the coffers in order to provide school supplies, clothes, food, etc. to those in need.

    ((BIG HUGS)) all around the room! (and a couple extra for you, RF!!)


  4. The Thriller

    I grieve for your loss. My heart and my prayers are with you. I did not know your mother personally BluVox, but based upon the bits of information I have gathered from this blog, and from my brief conversation with BoomR on his visit here, I believe I have glimpsed her character. If she could look into your eyes right now and hold your face in the palms of her hands [as only a mother can], what would she say to you? Perhaps this:

    Death is nothing at all… I have only slipped away into the next room.
    I am I and you are you…whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
    Call me by my old familiar name, speak to me in the easy way which you always used.
    Put no difference into your tone; wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.
    Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
    Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word it always was.
    Let it be spoken without effort, without the ghost of a shadow on it.
    Life means all that it ever meant.
    It is the same as it ever was; there is absolutely unbroken continuity.
    What is this death but a negligible accident?
    Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
    I am waiting for you for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.
    All is well.

    Canon Henry Scott-Holland, 1847-1918, Canon of St Paul’s Cathedral

    {{Hugz}} to you both.

    1. BoomR

      Thriller – Truly wonderful – thank you sooo much for sharing that! I will make sure BV reads your messages and those amazing words from the Canon. Maybe I will print that off & read those words when we spread her ashes here. She said she didn’t want any big memorial service…besides, her family is scattered all across the US right now (PA, So Carolina, TX, and California). She asked to be cremated & her ashes spread over the garden by our pool “…so I can always be with you guys…”

      Of course, she will ALWAYS be with us, no matter where her ashes are :-)


Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.