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No studying today

Because it’s Mothers Day. Yay for me! Thank you, Woodrow Wilson. Actually, I’m just looking for an excuse to not study today. Found it.

As some of you may have read in the bio post I did last year, my mother, Barbara, was a wonderful lady. Sure, we had our problems (see yesterday’s post), but bottom line, for good or ill, she devoted herself completely to parenting Mavis and me. I mean, for almost twenty years, that was her sole occupation in the world. And I for one will never forget that sacrifice, even as I hope she got some joy out of it, too. I know we did.

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To all the Finkville moms, I say “Happy Day!” To all my fiends who are fortunate enough to be sons and daughters of moms who can still be hugged, I say, “Go do it, right now.”

Mavis and I are being treated to a pizza party tonight with the whole gaggle. What are you doing for Mom’s Day?

FO

24 hours in

Yesterday, my husband (affectionately known as the Thriller, because he has a rather well-known name) embarked on a quest I never thought I’d see.

After 40 years, he is giving up cigarettes.

Of course, I’ve never known a time when he didn’t smoke. He started the year he graduated high school (1969), and with the exception of one brief period — during which his family begged him to please go out for a cig before they all lost their minds — he never stopped. Until yesterday afternoon.

I don’t understand the pull of nicotine addiction, having never experienced that particular craving. But from what I have seen from Thriller, my sister Mavis, and many other members of my family (I come from a long, long line of habitual smokers), it is intense. I have been a smoker myself in the past, but had no trouble laying them down. And since they’re now up over $6 a pack (and in some locales, as much as $7.50), lots of people are laying them down. From an article in the Nashville News:

Come April 1, the federal tax on a pack of cigs increases to $1.01. Add in a state tax increase to 62 cents a pack, and a pack of Camels or Marlboros will soon run you $6.75. Parliaments and American Spirits will jump to about $7.50.

To keep smokers from retreating to more cost-efficient grounds, lawmakers also raised the tax on roll-your-own tobacco by a stunning 2,200 percent. The federal tax on a pound will go from $1.09 to $24.78.

Yikes. Suffice it to say that the Thriller’s decision to quit (based mostly on the fact that, as he said, “I’m killing myself,” but also on the ridiculous price hikes) has my respect and admiration. I can only imagine how difficult it must be.

He is using his pipe to help him through the first few days. That’s fine, especially since he predicts that the constant messing with keeping it lit will be such a massive pain in the hind-end that he’ll give it all up, sooner or later. Sounds like a plan to me. Anything is better than his former pack-and-a-half-a-day habit.

It will be a challenge and a long haul for him, I’m sure. But there are those of us who want him to see his grandchildren grow up. He knows it’s worth it. So, shout out to the Thriller if you’ve a mind to. He’ll need all the encouragement we can give him.

Fink out.

Nightmare on Piedmont St.

Years ago, I saw a special on TV — probably on PBS — about the horrifying fire that destroyed the Cocoanut Grove Nightclub in Boston on 28 November, 1942. I can’t remember the name of the TV program, but the memory of how it scared the living bejayzus out of me is still fresh, even 30-some years hence.

The tiny club, with a capacity of 600 between the restaurant and adjoining lounge, was packed that night with close to 1,000 people. Half of them met their end that very evening, in unthinkable ways.

Imagine seeing flames spreading across the ceilings, and smoke filling the small, windowless room. Panicked patrons racing all over the place, flying towards the emergency exits…only to find them all chained shut.

Imagine finally reaching the only emergency exit not chained, and finding (along with a crushing press of hundreds of other hysterical, screaming people trying to push their way out) that the doors only open inward. Towards you.

And this was how they died. According to the Boston Herald reports, when firemen finally broke through the chained emergency exits, they were greeted by a stack of crushed bodies, piled chest-high.

Believed to have been started by a busboy who lit a match in the basement so he could see to change a lightbulb, the fire totally engulfed the cellar in five minutes,

and many people died stacked up at the one stairwell. The exit door at the top of the stairs was bolted shut. The fire spread to the ceiling on the first floor, and totally engulfed it within another five minutes. Many people died trying to exit through the revolving door–pushing from both sides and preventing escape. Some diners in the restaurant never even had a chance to leave their seats, having been asphyxiated by smoke and toxic gases. (Celebrate Boston.com – The Cocoanut Grove Fire)

I hate, hate, hate revolving doors. Always have, for that very reason. What if I got stuck? What if I were trapped in that little space? I experience a Godfather moment whenever I see one. Shudder. When I was a little girl, I’d walk on tippytoe through them really really fast, for fear that the part of the door behind me was going to creep up and run me over.

I also hate, hate, hate staying on upper floors in a hotel. I always ask for the ground floor, or at least nothing higher than the highest floor a fire department rescue ladder can reach. [I know. I’m weird.]

Anyway, if any good can come out of a tragedy like Cocoanut Grove, it was that fire regulations were tightened up bigtime. No more blocking off or chaining of doors, and no more emergency exits that opened inward. You’d think that something that horrible would teach everyone a lesson. But, alas…not so.

More on that another day.

I can’t believe this week is over. For the past 5 days, we’ve had my nephew staying with us. It’s been great. Jean-Claude and I have lots of common interests, as he’s the full time music director here . (What a gig, lucky dog.) Anyway, he leaves today, and we will miss him.

However, I am excited about having friends over tomorrow night to watch The Godfather, parts II and III, on the new television beast. Fun.

Fink out.

That was fun

So yeah, we had our family Christmas gathering last night. A fabulous time.

As we ate, laughed, opened gifts, chatted, bawled and laughed some more, I was reminded of a comforting truth: in spite of all the hardships of money (meaning not enough of it), time (ditto) and general craziness that comes with having what I call a large family in scope if not in size … I am blessed in a big way, due in no small part to the wonderful women who I am honored to call my daughters. We had a “girls’ photo” taken before everyone scattered, and I am going to have it framed.

[You know I am happy about getting together for a photo if I post a public picture with me in my glasses and not contact lenses. I need to get frames like Helen’s, so I don’t look like the aging school marm that I am. Mercy.]

My wish is for every mother-in-law and stepmom in the world to have caring, funny, intelligent and cool daughters and daughters-in-law to bless them.

Only downside of our Christmas this year: we have to say goodbye to Johanna, who will move to Austin, Texas tomorrow, where she will attend grad school, work for the IRS, and do great things — guaranteed. You heard it here first.

Still, it was a fab time last night, and everyone had fun — including Jakey, who loved his new toys (although Rousseau wasn’t too sure about them).

Now it’s on to the reality of studying, studying, choreography, studying and choreography. Play time is over.

Arg.

Fink out.

Halloween at Grammie’s

Yes, you have to put up with a Grammie post, complete with photos. (Well, you don’t have to; you could click away, but I wish you wouldn’t.)

Jake had fun at Grammie’s yesterday. After I got home from school, we played awhile before I had to go to rehearsal. Of course, the camera was out…

Hi, let me try that camera

Hey you up there

Calling Santa

Tired little dragon after trick-or-treat

#1 Son and tired little dragon

And to think there was a time when I thought I was too young to be a grandmother. Shame on me. If anything, this boy keeps me thinking and acting young. (Notice I didn’t say *looking* young. Oh well — as Meatloaf once sang…)

Fink out.