Tell about a regret.
I regret not being more disciplined and responsible as a teenager and young adult. I know that some of my crazier, more rebellious traits have been passed on to my sons (their father was/is the quintessential antithesis of “wild”). I regret not teaching them to conform and think inside the box.
OK, that last sentence was total crap. But I do sometimes regret being wild and crazy in my youth.
How about you? Is there something you wish you could do over, or are you all Frank Sinatra singin’ My Way?
One of my biggest regrets is giving people (and myself) the impression that I am, most recently and especially, flaky about the decisions in my life. Makes me feel like I have to apologize to people for making decisions that I had planned to pursue in the future anyway… just, the future came a little quicker than I expected it to. Good thing I have a mother who reminds me of this daily… Though, in retrospect, it would have been pretty amazing for me to get it exactly right this whole time.
The future jumps right down on us, doesn’t it…like, before we know what’s even happening. I see great things for you and Jefe — keep me posted on the Cleveland happenings! I, for one, firmly believe in you, and am convinced that you owe no one any apologies.
The foremost regret that comes to mind is not taking the time to visit my grandpa when he was placed in a nursing home when I was in college. It was a difficult situation — he had Alzheimer’s and at that age, I wasn’t emotionally well-equipped to handle him losing touch with reality and with knowing who I was. He died in 2005, 5 months shy of becoming a great-grandpa with my son’s birth, and the regret has been with me ever since. Don’t think I’ve ever shared that — good job, Fink. ;-).
I did not know this, fiend! Dementia is really hard to deal with (BFF Kay is going through that with her mom right now, and it’s heartbreaking). You know, I was in my forties when my grandma died (she also suffered from senility), and found it very difficult to call her on a regular basis. She always asked if my boys had started school yet (they were in their 20s), or she’d think she was speaking to my mom, who passed away years ago. It’s a gut punch, especially coming from someone who took care of you and adored you. *hugs*
I regret not stepping in sooner when my son was dating a girl in HS that was not a healthy relationship. It was a truly awful experience but we both learned something from it and we survived!
I also regret that I only got a 2 year degree when I graduated from HS instead of a 4 year degree. I didn’t even consider it at that time but now that I am facing the end of what has been my full time job for many, many years and not sure how many years my part-time job will continue the possibilities for me would be more open with that 4 year degree.
Ah, yes — the classic battle between letting your children discover life, and protecting them from what you know is a bad choice. One of the hardest things to reconcile as a parent! But you have two great kids who grew up strong and confident, so it turned out to be a growing experience (albeit painful at times — I remember!).
And now your baby’s done with high school. Is school in YOUR future, mayhap???
I regret the ~19 years that I fell off the face of the earth and disconnected with some very special friends (Fink@ the top of the list) because of fear of rejection, scorn, disapproval, etc…
…but thankful for a WONDERFUL reunion and unconditional love & acceptance…
Sweetness — the sadness I felt during those lost years was absolutely dwarfed by the exhilaration at our reunion! And look at us now — coming full circle to record together again. HA! Ama-ZAY-zing. I love you!
I heart this!!!!!! So glad for you two :)))))))
I regret not buckling down harder in college and being more disciplined with my music. I think I would have enjoyed being a band director and possibly composing music like my dad did but I just didn’t/don’t have the discipline it takes. I was in a hurry to get out on my own and the first chance I had at a good job and the possibility to live on my own that came along, I took it. Quit college after 3 years ( I went directly out of HS) and worked. I did go back to college and finish college. I was in my late 20 s and was an Older College Student.
However, I don’t regret the experiences I had during those years of working and living on my own. One has to grow up pretty fast!! So it all worked out.
I sometimes….sometimes mind you…have a quick flash of regret of not having kids…but that quickly diminishes as I know wouldn’t have liked being a mom and I wasn’t about to give in to the idea that a woman HAS to become a mother. There are too many women out there who have had children out of obligation and are lousy mothers.
You would have been a great BD! Like BoomR, band is in your bloodline, and knowing your personality, you would have had what it took to make a career out of it. But now you’re the cute American who delivers mail in Tulip Land — how awesome is that? Did you ever in your wildest imagination think that you’d be where you are now? What a great life!
And no worries on your choice to not be a mother — it just leaves you more time to pay attention to ME ME ME!
Ha. I regret that I’ve been behind. XD
No, really I regret not caring until this year. Nothing here motivated me before, and now suddenly I have a 3.8 GPA and a huge network of people I never talked to. It would have been nice to have it all before.